The Art of Making Beautiful Requests

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Editor’s note: This post is by Sarah McCrum, author of Love Money, Money Loves You a book in which the Energy of Money explains to human beings how it works and how our natural wishes and desires for abundance in all areas of life are fulfilled. She’s co-founder with Jeff Vander Clute and Niko Dujmovic of The Consciousness of Money.

A beautiful request is a way to set an intention or receive help that’s aligned with your heart and your whole being. Beautiful requests create tangible, positive results in any area of your life.

Making such requests means partnering with consciousness and the core of your human creativity. It’s an art—one you can learn, with practice.   

The head and heart

As long as you’re alive you have wishes and desires. They may be simple, such as have a successful meeting or enjoy your day or find something delicious to eat for lunch. Or they may be more complex, such as to find a new partnership for your business that fulfills specific conditions, or to organise an event that meets many different people’s expectations, or to find the best school for your children. 

Some wishes arise from your heart. They’re spontaneous. They’re what you’d love to happen. Other wishes arise from your head. They’re what you think you want, or what you feel you’re supposed to want. There’s a big difference between the wishes of the heart and the head. 

In the grand system of consciousness and the formation of physical reality, wishes from the heart are easy to fulfill. The energy around them tends to be clean and clear and life responds directly and naturally to them. It’s common to feel as if they’re happening through synchronicity or serendipity.

Wishes from the head are much harder to fulfill. Their energy is more complex because they’re not your own deep personal desires. They often combine other people’s expectations with your own in a way that leaves you feeling inner pressure, which creates conflicted energy. You have to work hard to fulfill these wishes because life isn’t able to respond to them directly. There’s more effort, less synchronicity.  

In the art of making a beautiful request, it’s your heart that leads. The process can’t be boiled down to an exact formula even though it involves several steps. It’s how you engage with each step that makes that step effective, and that’s as much about your inner state as it is about doing it right. Practice is the key, doing it over and over again, seeing what works and what doesn’t, and observing what the process feels like every step of the way. Your feelings become your guidance system and they determine whether your requests are successful.

How to form a beautiful request

Step 1: Combine your key challenges into one challenge

Identify one area of your life where you’d like some improvement or a good outcome. It might be an area that feels stuck, or where there are challenges at the moment, or where you’re longing for an upgrade or a shift, or where you’d simply like to experience more or better. Look at all the challenges you have in that area and bring them together into one challenge.  

For example, if you want to move to a new house, but you don’t have enough money to get the house you want and your partner wants a different house, you have 3 challenges:

  • To buy a new house.
  • To have the money for the new house.
  • To find a house (or some other solution) that works for you and your partner.

If you combine them all together, your challenge becomes this: To have the money or circumstances that enable you to buy a new house that both you and your partner want.

Step 2: Form a request for a solution to the challenge

Turn your challenge into a request. The formulation of the request is important. It must be your genuine wish for a beautiful solution—what you would love to happen, not just what would be okay or tolerable or the best under the circumstances or a compromise. 

For example, I want a house that my partner and I both like that we can afford to buy. You can add as many details as you like here, or keep it simple.  

Step 3: Tweak the request until it will produce a truly beautiful outcome

Feel into the request you’ve formed. Does it feel really, really good to you? How can you tweak it to make it feel even better? Play with the words and the feelings, until it feels beautiful and lights you up. When it makes you warm on the inside and a big smile breaks out across your face you know you’ve got it. Add the words “or something better” on the end to make sure there’s a possibility for something even better than you can imagine. 

The moment your face lights up is the key to the effectiveness of the whole process.

For example, I’d love to find a house beside the park where my partner and I both feel really relaxed and happy and have enough money to turn it into a beautiful home, or something better. 

Step 4: Ask for it to be done for you

Imagine there’s a genie, or a wish-fulfillment system, just waiting for your request and as soon as it’s made they’ll go into action to fulfill it. Ask your genie to grant your wish.

For example, please bring me a house beside the park where my partner and I both feel really relaxed and happy as well as the money to turn it into a beautiful home, or something better. 

Step 5: Do what you need to do today, beautifully

Your job now is to do whatever needs to be done as well as you can. There will be some steps you can take to help with your wish. The aim is to do these tasks, and all other tasks, beautifully and to feel as good as you can. This doesn’t mean you’re responsible for all of the work. Think of yourself as a partner in the effort. Do your bit to help the wish fulfillment system get to work on your behalf.

For example, you may need to check out the real estate website and local agents, organise your finances, and have conversations with your partner to clarify what you both really want in your next house. 

Step 6: Let go, relax, and enjoy

The delivery of beautiful requests is connected with your energy. When you’re relaxed and enjoying life it’s easy for good things to happen to you. If you’re worried and stressed your energy closes down and you delay delivery of your request. Also if you work too hard trying to sort it all out, you don’t leave any room for the magic of life to happen, so it’s important to get out of the way as much as you can, while still taking care of your part. This may take some experimentation to get it right. If you do too much yourself, you slow the whole process down. If you don’t take care of your part, you don’t create the right circumstances for delivery. It’s an art!

Step 7: Remember that small daily requests make up big long-term requests

If you make a big request, there will be lots of small requests on the way to fulfilling it. 

For example, you could ask for:

  • a great real estate agent
  • a constructive conversation with your partner
  • a new contract in your business to bring in some additional income
  • a relative or friend who’d love to put some money into your house
  • the right house to show up quickly
  • And many more

Important tips

Have the courage to ask for the full scenario—what you really want—rather than just what you think is possible or reasonable. This is very important because a truly beautiful request isn’t about compromising. It feels good because you’re not inviting compromise at all. The wish fulfilment systems responds very positively to this kind of energy.

Once you’ve made the request, it’s important to trust. Give the system time and scope to deliver. Sometimes the results turn out way better than anything you could have imagined.

Don’t be overambitious as you practice. Start with smaller requests to build up your confidence.  If you have a very big request, state it, but also break it up into lots of smaller requests along the way to its fulfillment.

It’s helpful to speak your requests out loud and it’s even better when you say them to someone else who’s supportive.

Keeping a “Beautiful Requests” journal or list helps you remember and notice details you might otherwise forget or overlook, such as the form of your requests and exactly what happened in response to them. Look back through the list every so often to notice which requests have been fulfilled and to build your understanding of how powerful you really are.

Relax, enjoy, love. That’s how you create an optimal environment and energy field for wish fulfillment.

Seven Practices of Thriving and Abundant Consciousness

Hi friends!

Just before the turn of the year, Jeff received the following in meditation…

Seven Practices of Thriving and Abundant Consciousness:

  1. Beauty
  2. Creativity
  3. Relaxation
  4. Simplicity
  5. Enjoyment
  6. Love
  7. Clarity

These seven practices necessarily expand and awaken individual and collective consciousness, and they create the experience of abundance. Together, they support an opening into Joy and Receptivity. They also support the deep work of healing, clearing, forgiving, and integrating that so many of us are drawn to at this time.

Curiously, three of the above practices – Relax, Enjoy, and Love – consistently show up in the same order in our work with The Consciousness of Money. “Relax, Enjoy, Love” is a simple formula that has already been helping people to live in much lighter and more abundantly joyful ways. Now, with the expanded set of seven practices, we have “more ways to play” as well as additional tools for staying grounded and clear.

Here’s our suggestion for the New Year: Let’s all see what happens when we celebrate and engage with these seven practices in the first few months of 2019. All of us at Sourcing The Way and The Consciousness of Money invite you to join in this fun experiment, and to let us know what starts to flourish as you do so!

What a year!

2018 has been a banner year for Sourcing The Way. Jeff and Maria have co-created an abundance of tools, technologies, systems, events, workshops, collaborations….in Jeff’s case while traveling the world, and in Maria’s by doing deep work from her home in the U.K.

Let’s start with Maria. She’s finishing off 2018 by completing her Spiritual Practitioner training, which has prepared her to offer her clients Karmic Alignments, a process and philosophy that goes deep and brings practical, psychological understandings together with spiritual practices. She brings all of this into her coaching practice, where she’s been developing a set of consciousness technologies focused on Spiritual Freedom. All of them complement the work of Sourcing The Way. Their overarching theme is ‘Activating Your Future’ with three key questions that guide her clients’ quests:

  1. Am I owning my story?
  2. Am I living my values?
  3. Am I showing up fully?

The first of Maria’s interactive offerings – the Mapping Your Freedom assessment – is just about to launch, so expect more news from her soon!

As for Jeff, he spent 2018 traveling around the world to expand STW’s impact by:

  • Co-leading Consciousness of Money workshops on three continents, together with Sarah McCrum and Niko Dujmovic. What began as an experimental workshop in 2017 is growing into a global movement as people discover that we’ve been misreading what Money is and what Money wants.
  • Accepting invitations to help organizations and gatherings “Source” deeply to raise their consciousness, become more effective, and fine-tune their offerings.
  • Continuing to research and evolve the radical possibilities offered by the Synthesis maps.
  • Working with individual clients who want to be more effective or aware.

What happened where?

Jeff’s 2017 ended with meetings in Delhi for UNITY EARTH, so 2018 began with 2 weeks in South India visiting ashrams, connecting with illuminated people, and researching the Synthesis maps. Here’s what happened after that. (An asterisk (*) means Jeff co-led, organized, or helped facilitate the event.)

  • Australia: Three Consciousness of Money workshops on the Sunshine Coast*
  • Berkeley, CA: True Purpose™ process for Bristlecone Mining Co. with Tim Kelley
  • Nevada: Connecting with the desert for Bristlecone Mining Co. (a radically revolutionary, new-paradigm company committed to collaborating with Nature)
  • Crestone, CO: Extended Consciousness R&D time
  • India for a five-day working retreat for UNITY EARTH + Rishikesh trip, connecting with illuminated people*
  • Australia: Two Consciousness of Money workshops*
  • Santa Barbara, CA: Evolutionary Leaders retreat to explore “Community 2.0″*
  • Loveland, CO: Presented at Tribalize conference at Sunrise Ranch*
  • New York, NY: “Social Artistry” event at United Palace in NYC with Duane Elgin, Jean Houston, Jude Currivan, and Lynne McTaggart*
  • Crestone, CO: Launched the Center for Awakened Human Capacities with an inaugural gathering of over 50 people*
  • Orcas Island, WA: Two Consciousness of Money workshops (the first CoM events in USA)*
  • Crestone, CO: Sacred Sites Convergence (a UNITY EARTH event)*
  • Glastonbury and Devon, England: Three Consciousness of Money workshops (the first CoM events in Europe)*
  • Findhorn, Scotland: A weeklong exploration of “Co-creating with the Intelligence of Nature”*
  • Byron Bay, New South Wales, Australia: Two days of offering nonstop healing sessions at Fields of Healing*
  • Australia: Two Consciousness of Money workshops
  • Findhorn, Scotland: Exploring connections between the sacred mission of the Findhorn Foundation and eco-village and The Consciousness of Money

Jeff also consulted with around 35 individual clients and advised or mentored a dozen organizations. And Maria has been just as busy! As for 2019, stay tuned….

Returning to the Country of the Heart

There is a great deal of attention being placed nowadays on the theory and practice of awakening consciousness. The truly good news of these times is that spiritual practices are proliferating that can reliably guide the soul home to the knowing and experience of its true abode. One simple and ageless practice, which I discovered essentially through trial and error, is that of showing up consistently in service, saying YES when asked to fulfill a function, often as part of a team, and then surrendering to the Grace that flows when service deepens into selflessness. This practice permeates my inner and outer work, and it has been a radical accelerant on my journey home.

In June 2017, I had the great good fortune to meet Ben Bowler at a gathering of leaders working to bridge divides between science, spirituality, and activism in this time of deepening world crisis. As we sat outside in the early-morning summer sunshine, Ben shared a vision for UNITY EARTH – a living network of people, organizations, and events with a mission of healing humanity and Earth through experiences of actual Unity. One of the events coming up within a few short months was a concert to observe and celebrate a profound healing moment for the nation and peoples of Australia: the “return to country” of Mungo Man. Ben asked if I would be interested in coming to Australia to participate, and without a hesitation I said YES.

Continue reading Returning to the Country of the Heart

An Open Letter to those in search of Spiritual Freedom – Part #4/4

This is the last part, part four, of my series on the principle that has guided my own journey and now underlies every element of my coaching, teaching, and mentoring practice: Spiritual Freedom. (Learn more at http://www.annamariaback.com)

So, how can one recognise Spiritual Freedom?

As a wise friend shared, Spirit is the oxygen of the soul. For the logical mind, Spiritual Freedom can seem challengingly elusive because it is intangible. Some say spiritual freedom is an experience. And, as frustrating as this may be, unless you’ve had the experience…well, it stays intangible.

Instead of calling it an experience, I would offer that Spiritual Freedom is more of a state. The beauty of it is that there is no fixed formula. You decide what it means to you, what makes it true for you.

As I mentioned earlier, in my view (which is only one model of many), the antithesis to Spiritual Freedom is Fear. Fear of living, fear of being oneself, fear of standing up for and to oneself, and fear of not believing in oneself, to name a few. When it dawned on me that my life lacked Spiritual Freedom, I felt confused. A part of me felt guilty because, really, what did I have to complain about?! I was a free spirit. My life was pretty awesome and comfortable.

To me, Spiritual Freedom is having the freedom to choose, to be who I am, to take responsibility for who I am, to be curious, to operate beyond the constricting boundaries of expectations:

  • It is what fires me up, what makes me want to take action, to change, to grow, to evolve.
  • It is my main motivation in everything I do, who I am, and also why I do what I do.
  • It is connected to instinct and deeper wisdom, inspiration, awareness, and autonomy.
  • It expands my perspective, it keeps me on my toes as it brings self-discovery and evolution into focus.
  • It provides me with the framework to having the courage to lean beyond my comfort zone.
  • It makes me feel freer, agile, alive, inspired, and energised.
  • It helps me fine tune my focus and have trust in turning inward.

Spiritual Freedom involves integrating spiritual practices in everyday life and not being held back by circumstances. It involves being aware of the systems I operate within, deciding who I want to be and how I want to show up.

During my ongoing self-discovery expedition, the following questions have provided direction:

  1. Am I owning my story?
  2. Am I living my values?
  3. Am I showing up fully?

Spiritual Freedom is about listening to our soul’s calling, giving our inner wisdom its opportunity to shine. Feeling contentment, fulfilment, and inner satisfaction. Being confident in who we are and what we have to offer, knowing that we are enough, knowing that our spirit is awake to express itself fully.

To no longer be defined or confined by story is also part of Spiritual Freedom. It’s about being free to own whatever is within you – that which follows you through life, and beyond – your inner core, your joy and freedom.

The three questions about owning my story, living my values, and showing up fully, have been a steady companion for some time. At times I have wondered if they are clear enough, and how and if they connect to Spiritual Freedom. One wise friend recently said, “They do for me. Upon answering these questions with ‘no– no– no’, it tells me why I’m not there yet”.

If your answers to the above questions are “no” – remember, it’s not about blame. It’s about acceptance, recognition, forgiveness, and appreciation. The beauty is, as there is no fixed formula, we all have access to those, and to the freedom they lead to.

My question to you is…is Spiritual Freedom present in your life? If yes, what does it look like? And if not, would you like it to be?

An Open Letter to those in Search of Spiritual Freedom – Part #3

This is part three of my series on the principle that has guided my own journey and now underlies every element of my coaching, teaching, and mentoring practice: Spiritual Freedom. (Learn more at http://www.annamariaback.com)

As I’ve pondered Spiritual Freedom further, I’m nudged to see that it is Timeless, Visceral, and Experiential…all at once.

Being “spiritual” usually comes with a host of connotations. For some it is the equivalent of being religious; for others, it is believing in energy healing, tarot cards, angels, fairies, and other elementals. For some, it involves being reflective, practicing forgiveness, compassion, and non-judgment. No matter which meaning you give it, our society, for the most part, doesn’t consider being spiritual as valuable as the rational mind.

For the mind, “spirituality” is this weird, challenging, and intangible thing. Some would say it is an experience, others that it’s a way of being. And more often than not, it is ridiculed or dismissed because the mind doesn’t know what to do with it, doesn’t know how to understand it.

Religion and spirituality weren’t discussed much around the dinner table when I was growing up. Looking back, I don’t quite know where my beliefs have come from. I felt an affinity for astrology early on, and I was secretly fascinated by the spirit world (to the point of being afraid of the same).

I first came across spirituality, by that name, in my early 20’s. I had recently landed my first job in accounting at a global high-tech electronics company. As I got to know the others in the office, there was one lady who stood out to me as very “colourful”. She was into theatre, dance, and – lo and behold – energy healing (whatever that was!). She was a bit “loud”, and according to my frame of the world at the time, she didn’t seem to “fit in”. I remember vividly, she wore a lot of purple plush and had wacky necklaces. She was good at her job, but I did not take her seriously. Today, I’m smiling at my youthful ignorance and immaturity.

What does the internet say about the word “spirituality”? Here’s a sampling:

From the Oxford dictionary:

(1) Relating to or affecting the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.

– Having a relationship based on a profound level of mental or emotional communion.

– (of a person) not concerned with material values or pursuits.

(2) Relating to religion or religious belief.

From Wikipedia:

Traditionally, spirituality refers to a religious process of re-formation which “aims to recover the original shape of man,” oriented at “the image of God” as exemplified by the founders and sacred texts of the religions of the world. In modern times the emphasis is on subjective experience of a sacred dimension and the “deepest values and meanings by which people live,” often in a context separate from organized religious institutions. Modern systems of spirituality may include a belief in a supernatural (beyond the known and observable) realm, personal growth, a quest for an ultimate or sacred meaning, religious experience, or an encounter with one’s own “inner dimension.”

Upon reading these, I think that one way to give further dimension to “spirituality” and “being spiritual” could be to say that someone “spiritual” is more interested in the WHO than the WHAT. For example, I’m more interested in “WHO I am” than “WHAT I am”, which harkens back to one of my musings in Part #1 – that external labels is not who we are.

In Part #4, the last part of this series, I’ll be summing up my musings around Spiritual Freedom. I hope to meet you there.

An Open Letter to those in search of Spiritual Freedom – Part #2

This is part two of my series on the principle that has guided my own journey and now underlies every element of my burgeoning coaching, teaching, and mentoring practice: Spiritual Freedom. (Learn more at http://www.annamariaback.com)

If you have not read Part #1 you can do that here.

Back in 2005, instinct and deeper inspiration led me to move back to the UK, this time to Hertfordshire. For some time, my life had felt uninspiring, unfulfilling, on autopilot, and stuck in story. I kept asking myself the question, “Surely, this can’t be all there is…?”

New in a town where I knew nobody, I had the space to ponder things. I reflected on my experiences over the past year and a half, especially how—once I decided to leave Sweden and return to the UK—everything came together easily. Even though a move between countries was in the mix!

As I looked into my motivation for moving back to the UK, I made some interesting discoveries. I had always considered myself a free spirit, yet it dawned on me that I didn’t have spiritual freedom. At the time, I didn’t have the language or awareness to understand it in this way; the best description I could come up with was that I felt boxed in, unfulfilled, bored, and uninspired.

Now, I am a work in progress like everyone else. I have spent the past 13 years in a conscious self-discovery mode. At first, I approached the move to the UK as adding new aspects to my life; new learning, new friends, a new location, and my focus was on expanding my perspective—to lean beyond what I was used to.

The expanded perspective was great. I felt a lot freer, agile, alive, inspired, and energised. However, soon enough I felt nudged to fine-tune and be more deliberate in my focus—to turn inward. I recognised that changing only my external circumstances would never be enough— it wouldn’t fix “it”. I also needed to look at how I experienced the world, how I expressed myself in the world, and how I ultimately could create and live with more awareness.

In my experience, the antithesis to Spiritual Freedom is fear of living, fear of being oneself, fear of standing up for—and to—oneself, and fear of not believing in oneself. Ingredients that there are a lot of in this day and age.

Imagine feeling like there is not just one “right” way and you don’t have to comply with any dogma and doctrine. Imagine being genuinely open to possibility, and feeling free from judgment, mockery, and criticism—yours as well as others’.

People may feel fairly comfortable exploring spirituality in their personal lives. But we have a way to go when it comes to mixing our personal practice with our work life. Imagine having a safe place to explore the myths or beliefs that you hold about spirituality, that in turn hold you back. Myths that stop you owning your Spiritual Freedom fully, without shame, without fear of rejection, or criticism.

Imagine experiencing contentment, fulfilment, and inner satisfaction both at work and at home. Being confident in who you are and what you bring into being, regardless of your setting. Imagine knowing you are enough. This is true freedom, and has become my life work: Helping clients discover the Spiritual Freedom of being awake, aware, and fully expressed. And then, most importantly, helping them learn how to live that.

I’ll continue my journey into how to understand Spiritual Freedom in Part #3. I look forward to meeting you there.