Three keys to overturning blind spots

Welcome to the latest wave of *Fika for Your Soul*!

Some of you know that ‘showing up fully’ is a theme for me this year. And looking at what’s going on around us, the world at large seems to be pointing in a similar direction…to how it’s time for humanity to show up.

My definition of showing up fully includes having the confidence, clarity, and courage to forge my own path, to walk my own way. When I do that, I know that I’m in my freedom zone—the zone where I’m in alignment and in balance, and where I experience meaning, fulfillment, and delight.

A new opportunity to show up further appeared the other day and inspired what I’m sharing with you now. It’s linked to the human propensity for making decisions ahead of time, the deals we make with ourselves, and how these paint our freedom zone a certain way….

I’m the reflective type. In preparation for a session with coach Alex I pondered what was at the top of the list, what wanted to be the entry point for our upcoming conversation. For all the previous sessions, I had known in advance what wanted to be looked at.

This time…

Nothing. Nada. Crickets.

I was bewildered. There are plenty of topics to talk about, but, somehow, nothing came to the forefront.

It felt like a vacuum. At a loss, and being possibly somewhat unorthodox, at the time of our call I invited coach Alex to provide a doorway.

I was confused (and a bit frustrated) by how ‘blank’ I felt and how everything we approached seemed like decoys. Then, BOOM! After almost an hour, we stumbled upon a blind spot that has been ducking attention for decades.

It became clear to me that I’ve been operating with a ‘retreat’ tactic from an early age. I heard myself say that I’m afraid of sensory overload and so in any situation where that may be a possibility, I retreat in advance. Or put another way, I create an energetic boundary that keeps me from experiencing said sensory overload.

I’ve gotten so used to doing this for myself that I never ask if it’s needed. It happens automatically.

For me, the magnitude of this discovery is enormous.

I get why it happened way back when. It was a means to protect myself at a time when I didn’t know how else to handle what was going on and I made a deal with myself that retreating was the best way to cope.

At the end of the coaching session it became clear why I had felt so ‘blank’, why I had been unable to provide an entry point for our conversation. I’d embodied the very thing that was ready to be found!

Yep. Somehow, the avoidance pattern had queued itself up to be discovered and my embodying it— by going blank—was the clue. How weird and wonderful!

As coach Alex and I named this tactic that wanted to be found, I could feel things shift. Still, I was a bit bewildered by how this would affect my daily life. Then a dear friend, upon hearing about this weird and wonderful call, helped this discovery to land.

My friend said something along the lines of, “Wow, Maria, what if this tactic hadn’t been…!”

I so appreciate her saying this as it helped me feel what is now possible. It isn’t about what could have been or what I may have missed out on. That isn’t what she meant. It’s about what’s now possible as I step into situations with a different presence and awareness.

Don’t get me wrong, the sensory overload is a real thing. However, instead of deciding in advance that that’s what’s going to happen, from here on I will check in with myself. That way, my ‘retreat tactic’ blind spot won’t have the power to blind me.

Let me close by sharing three things that can help you recognize, and see through, blind spots. None are rocket science, just helpful reminders.

…Be aware of situations, scenarios, or circumstances where you may have auto-pilot switched on. Could there be a blind spot in there somewhere?

…Remember to check in with yourself. Ask yourself the question, “What’s my confidence, clarity, and courage level right now?”

…Ask someone you trust to reflect back what they see. Do they notice certain patterns or behaviour that you are unaware of?

I hope this has been helpful. In terms of my own discovery, I’m still surprised at how this one almost got away. How tricky it was to catch it, and how incredibly deeply it had nested itself into my everyday. As this continues to unravel, my guess is that I’ll be given opportunities to come back to this topic again.

..from my soul to yours,


PS! I’ve mentioned the concept of a ‘freedom zone’ a few times. We all have one. If this concept is new to you, I invite you to sit with the question, “What might/does my freedom zone look like?” What comes to you? I’ll be speaking more about this in the coming few weeks. If you are intrigued and inspired, and you’d like to share, I’d love to know. 🙂

*Fika for Your Soul* is about connecting with inspiration from everyday situations and conversations. It’s about discovery, reflection, leaning into, and stretching beyond…how we may see, understand, and express freedom, exploration, and leadership (among other things), all in the context of our daily lives. Fika (pronounced ‘Feka’) is Swedish and means taking a [coffee/tea] break.

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More exercises for using your intuition to gather information

Small is the number of those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts….Albert Einstein

For the last few weeks I have been sharing ways to develop your intuition, such as practicing anticipating events, connecting with objects and experiencing objects’ perspective, and sensing people’s inner states. This week we cover more ways to practice. You might want to go back and review the previous posts.

In time, as you keep working with your intuition, you’ll come to realize that everything is a “feeling.” Thus, in time, you’ll remember to always place your awareness into things to discover how they “feel” instead of mentally trying to figure things out from surface impressions and judgments.

So, to further refine your intuition why not approach how you understand things in the following way: How does this tree “feel?” How does this situation at work “feel?” How does this person “feel?” How does a crow “feel” as it flies? How does this business proposal “feel?” Is it safe, crooked, something else? So, how do things “feel?” 

Asking yourself how a situation, object, or person “feels” is the initial step in learning how to access your intuition. This is the basic training. Note that this system is not foolproof, for sometimes your perceptions get cluttered with your beliefs, projections, analysis, etc.. The more you use your intuitive faculties, the more accurate, honed, and sensitive they become.

So, how does the crow feel when it flies? Take a few minutes to close your eyes and become one with a crow and see what it has to tell you.

And how does this person you just met feel? Take a few minutes to close your eyes and sense what he or she has to tell you energetically.

Remember that for you to develop your intuition, you must exercise it! So, quiet your mind, open your heart, and take the time to feel.

“Open for Me slightly your heart and I will open the world for you.”
The Zohar

When you think with your mind, you seek answers to your questions. 
When you feel from your heart, the questions dissolve into answers.

…To be continued next week. This is part four of a seven-part series.

Back to wonder

I’ve spent the last few nights at a friend’s place while his housemate is away. I’m sleeping in a guest room filled with his housemate’s books—five bookcases, thirty-three shelves, filled with titles I’d have once found thrilling. It’s one of the best personal collections I’ve ever seen of books on energy work, consciousness, archetypes, stages of growth and maturation, esoteric and channeled teachings, psychology, mythology, mystery schools, healing, and the human brain. But today it all feels to me like ballast. 

I’m a book person with a thirsty mind. I grew up in a house full of books and became a bookworm as soon as I learned to read. After all these years, a house without books still feels more like a hotel suite to me than a home. So it’s not the presence of books, per se, that’s bothering me. Plus, being among books such as these used to be heaven to me. What has shifted? Maybe it’s simply that the room is small, the bookcases are made of dark and heavy wood, and the books aren’t mine to browse. But I sense something else at work here.

I’ve always loved ideas, analysis, speculation—wondering about what we are, how we work, how we evolve, or don’t. Plus, I’m a writer and editor; word skills are a key professional credential in my world. This collection, however, feels like a 60-pound backpack on a day hike, or too many blankets on a soft spring night. The sheer weight of so many ideas meant to uplift us, so many confident assertions and instructions and results of research into the ways and whys of being—the weight of so much evidence of our relentless drive to know. Once, I’d have wanted to devour nearly every book here. Now all I want is a bottle of water, a sun hat, and good shoes for the day hike, and when it’s time to sleep, one or two good blankets, not a mountain of them.

We don’t know the way things are. We barely know the way we are. Yet in book after book after book, we claim so much knowledge. Why?

I don’t ask that idly. I’ve lived by why. I’ve long been driven by curiosity. I’ve a mountain of “spiritual” books waiting for me back home, all books I love or may yet come to love. But do I still need them to show me what’s essential now and what has always mattered? 

In meditation, when my mind quiets enough to allow Presence to greet, enter, and fill me, it’s not more analysis, more speculation, more explanations that I’m offered. It’s more Love. It’s that simple. Love. Love that inspires me—to move, to acknowledge, to create something, to share.

I appreciate the irony that one of our best ways to share and inspire Love is through books. I’ve written one and I suspect I’ll write more. But the Presence that meets me is wordless. It’s an intimate sense of the life in everything. Sometimes I call it “the hum.” And it doesn’t speak. 

A few years ago I noticed that I was learning more from noticing than from studying. Take photosynthesis, for example. The mind-boggling miracle of photosynthesis that’s occurring in the leaves of the tree next to where I sat this morning isn’t explained in any of my books. They do describe the photosynthetic process—the chemical cycles and patterns involved. Those, we understand. But the wonder of it? No. And noticing that it’s miraculous, noticing what is, seeing the beauty in the patterns and textures and movements and cycles of this astonishing planet, is teaching me more than books right now. Moments of clarity bring me knowings that bypass my earnest mental efforts to understand.

I will always love books. But compared to such moments of knowing, books are like the second-hand garments of experience. They are to life what an archeologist’s thoughtful description of a flint knife’s possible use and origin is to the actual glint of light and blood on the knife’s razor edges, the sound it makes skinning a felled deer, the smells of the mineral blood and the waiting fire. Good poetry and vivid prose can bridge that gulf—they conjure the essence of the living moments they reflect on. So I’m all for writing. But the accumulation of so much expositional information and speculation about being spiritual and human seems more deadening to me right now than enlivening. Presence keeps calling me—analytical, knowledge-seeking me—back to Itself. Back to direct experience. Back to noticing. Back to wonder. 

Photo of plants by Ren Ran; featured photo of books by Darwin Vegher, both on Unsplash.

When Shiva came calling

That day when Shiva came calling
and dragged me, eyes and mouth open
all the way out onto his dance floor.
I had been standing, timid and
off to one side, afraid of stumbling
and getting it wrong.
My heart thundered as I joined the great
ecstatic whirling.
Formless flowing into form
and back again into formless.
Everything spun out of the radiant
black center, the whirling emptiness.
Everything spun back into the Nothing
that rests, unmoving.
I see every particle of Self
caught up in the flung-out galaxies.
See that I am this.
Life itself.
Boundless and indestructible; at
Home in the dance.

Image by Stux, thanks to Pixabay.

How to “sense” a person, using your intuition

Let’s continue from where we left off. In last week’s post we focused on learning to connect with objects. Here’s how to “sense” people. It’s a simple and very effective way to hone your intuition.

As a person you don’t know passes by you, visualize yourself focusing on their heart area and then, with your mind blank, just ask: “How do they feel?” Happy, sad, confident, angry, hopeful? The first answer that comes to mind is the correct one. Don’t think about the person; your mind will lead you astray. Practice this as often as you can over the years—hundreds and thousands of people—and eventually you’ll know just by looking at them.

You can practice this on people you know, and people you don’t. You can do this for people who are not physically present with you, too. Just see their face in your mind’s eye and “feel into” how they are doing. In time, you will pick up a lot of information about a person in this way. I do this all the time with my wife and son when we are not together. It helps me to get a sense of how their day is going.

In doing this you are not judging the person, nor are you looking at them intellectually. You are sensing them with your intuition. You are observing them with the eyes and heart of your Soul. If you don’t judge, analyze, or measure a person with your mind’s limiting belief systems, a higher sense of awareness and discernment comes forward. You see the God within them because you are seeing them from the God-ness within you. You see them for who they are, not as your projection of them.

Be present in your own presence and then you can be present for others.

Play with these techniques for a while and see what happens. The more you practice, the clearer your intuition will become.

To see a World in a grain of Sand,
and a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold infinity in the palm of your hand,
and Eternity in an hour.

William Blake

…To be continued next week. This is part three of a seven-part series on intuition.

My Cosmic Friends and Frenemies

Entering the world of higher dimensions can often be like starring in a Sci-Fi movie. You feel, hear, and see things that no one else does, and you meet and interact with various members of our Galactic Family. From my experience, I’d say these experiences present themselves when we are ready, when we’ve raised vibration and awareness enough to not freak out, and when we’re actually able to use discernment and act accordingly. In other words, when there’s no need to panic.  

The first time I was visited and made friends with a Cosmic Being was very unexpected and it was no one less than the Goddess Kali. I was sitting deep in meditation when I suddenly saw a strange looking female with a black face and red tongue sticking out. Her face emerged from inside of me, came up and out and stared right in my face. I was instantly taken aback and opened my eyes. “What the hell just happened?” I thought to myself. In all honesty, I knew nothing about Goddess Kali. I knew of the name but I had no idea what she looked like and what kind of energy she represented. Needless to say, I had no idea she’d lived inside me all along!

After that I started becoming more and more aware of the presence of the Beings, mainly Light Beings. I felt they were around me most of the time, usually 3 of them: a male, a female, and a no gender Being, acting as guardians and guides. I felt they were really tall, I could only see them down to their shoulders, literally bodies of Light. Being aware of their constant presence, I never felt alone ― in a good way. 

My second-most important encounter was not so pleasant. It was with the low vibrational Beings most commonly known as Reptilians. It was on the day I found myself in a situation in which I witnessed a conflict and an expression of anger by an individual. It wasn’t even directed at me, I just happened to be there as a witness. It was also when I had my mum staying with me for a week. My mum is, in general, a loving person with a big heart. However, due to a life-long conditioning and a lot of inherited collective karma, she functions from a place of fear and is constantly on high alert about the smallest things. 

So on that particular day, after I witnessed the anger-charged situation while having my mum around for a few days, I was feeling drained by everything that was going on around me. I was also still going through my own purging and clearing some old emotional stuff. I was driving along an empty road when, out of nowhere, I had a vision of Reptilian Beings surrounding me in a circle and crawling toward me. Let me point out that this is all happening in the Astral realm; I saw all this with my Third Eye, not in a physical form. I didn’t feel scared, I was fully aware that in 3D reality, I was driving in my car, there was no one around me on a physical level, and I was perfectly safe. 

As soon as that realisation came through, so did inner knowing of what to do ― to call upon my Light Beings and draw more Light from the Source into my energy field. It took quite few moments to be able to do this effectively, partly because I was already feeling drained, and partly because it was happening for a first time. As soon as I drew enough Light and expanded my Light Body, the Reptilians began to move away from me, farther and farther, until I couldn’t see them anymore.

When I was later reflecting on this experience, I realised that these low-vibrational Beings are here to remind us that we have a choice in every moment. We have a choice to stay in the Light or to give in to the Dark. We can choose our thoughts, words, situations we put ourselves in, people we surround ourselves with, and our choices determine our reality not just on a physical level but in all other dimensions as well, even if we aren’t fully aware of that yet. The universe is vast and we’re surrounded by the Unseen as much as the Seen. 

I have since fought quite a few battles with Reptilians and pushed them out of certain places and situations. Tom Kenyon refers to them as Feeders, and that is what they are; they feed on low-vibrational energy emitted through emotions like fear, anger, resentment, jealousy, etc. They cannot survive where Light is. And that is the lesson they bring. As with every other unpleasant experience, Reptilians also show up so we can learn a lesson and move on. Like everything else in life, they ultimately serve our highest good. 

I’ve met many Cosmic friends over time, all very friendly and loving, some simply showing their presence with a loving smile, and some actually assisting with my healing. I’ve witnessed my astral body being worked on and Light Codes being infused. I’ve seen myself directly receive beautiful healing energy from powerful Spirits like Yeshua and Mary Magdalene. 

As we open ourselves to the Cosmic Energy and the Multiverse, we open ourselves to all that comes with it. Spiritual Awakening is awakening to what we are: multidimensional beings. As much as it sounds like a Sci-Fi movie, it is absolutely possible to experience two places ― dimensions at the same time. However, which energy you choose to dwell in will determine what those places are, and who’ll you meet along the way. As you expand your consciousness, you expand your existence through many dimensions. 


How to further develop your intuition

For primitive people the presence of energy is the starting point of their analysis and understanding of the natural world. Primitive people felt energy, but did not measure it. Today we measure energy, but are not able to feel it.

Vine Deloria, PhD

Sometimes the more measurable drives out the most important.

Rene Debois, PhD

My post last week was the first of a series of seven posts on developing intuition. Let’s continue.

To improve your intuition, you must exercise it. Here are a few more exercises:

How to sense the energy and essence of an object

Find a stone or crystal and notice everything there is to be noticed about it—its size, shape, smell, indentations, coloring, weight, etc. Next imagine yourself inside it and then become it; listen for the silence within it. What is it saying? What does it feel like to be inside of it? What wisdom has it to impart to you? What kind of personality does it have? Why has it come to you now?

Don’t think as you do this, just feel. Stay with it for a few minutes so that you can fully connect with its essence. Keep your mind still and your heart open, and listen.

Next focus your attention on a flower and do the same as you did above. You can actually do this with any object.

Lastly, follow these same steps with an object that belongs to someone—an object they care about. Connect first with the object itself. Next, see what the object has to say about the person who owns it.

Have fun and just practice getting a “feel” for things. Stop relying always on thinking instead of feeling. You’ll be amazed at what you learn about the object you have put your attention on when you “feel” instead of “think” about it. You’ll be pleasantly surprised by what you learn about yourself in the process, too.

There is a voice that does not use words—Listen!

…To be continued next week in part three of this seven-part series on intuition.